We would save a lot of time and emotions by being more selective. That way we are available for the Singles that fit our “must have” list.

Online dating is not like your local bar and grille where you may have a selection of 7-10 eligible singles on a good night!

Online your choices are endless! If you don’t find who you want on one site? You just move onto the next singles site.

Start with your list of “must haves” and begin shopping! Take your time…the Singles aren’t going anywhere!

Another problem with online dating, you can never be sure the photo of the person is really the person you are corresponding with! But I think that is a small risk for the quantity of singles you will have access to.

But look at it from the other direction. The Singles you meet in public could be giving you the wrong name, the wrong age; their current relationship status could be a lie. So, if someone is going to lie, they are a liar. Whether online or off…a liar is a liar!

That is the reason I ask so many questions. If that offends some of the Singles? Too Bad! I have a right to know what I am dealing with from the very beginning. If the Single you are giving the “Third degree” to has been online dating for any length of time, they will understand your skepticism. If not…oh well…Next!!?

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Vivian Johnson has been involved with online dating since it’s inception! This is her main dating forum, since there is no other place in the world where you can have access to millions of eligible singles!

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The main reason online dating works is because of the vast number of eligible Singles that are online. If you can’t find what you want on one site, you simply move on to the next site.

If you are out “clubbing” you will have a very limited number of Singles to choose from. While online, there are literally millions of singles!

Another reason online dating works is we are able to totally “drop out” of the picture if we are being pursued by someone we have no interest in.

Unfortunately, if we are being pursued offline, using a club as an example, we can be followed from the bar to the dance floor to a table even all of the way to the parking lot!

But online, we can simply choose to stop responding! If the pursuit turns into harassment and stalking, we can have the site administrator totally block them!

Another reason online dating works is that we can “qualify” a person before deciding whether or not we want to get to know them better. While offline we can ask a lot of questions and if we don’t like the answers we are rarely rude enough to look someone in the face and say; “thanks for your interest, but I am not interested in you. Bye…”

I find that online dating has a lot of “safety features” that work in the favor of the Singles! You just have to know what these “safety features” are and how to use them!

About The Author

Vivian Johnson has been involved with online dating since it’s inception! This is her main dating forum, since there is no other place in the world where you can have access to millions of eligible singles!

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Why we can’t find love online? I believe the reason is that we do not know what love is, which means we can’t identify it when we see it!

We are looking for the dramatic, life altering, breath holding love we read about and see at the theater. That isn’t love…it is just good acting and you paid well to see it!

We can’t find love online because we aren’t honest while online. If we are honest with ourselves and others we will all be in a better position when it comes to love.

I think you should make a personal vow to not try to find love online until you are sure of what you want and not until then. You will save yourself and other singles a lot of time!

Think about this…how can you get to an unfamiliar “place” without a map or without someone giving you directions?

Most of us go online looking for love but we are wearing a blind fold and earplugs. So, with that being said, how are we going to find love?

We can start by removing the blind fold, the earplugs and listing what we want. Be honest, and right it down. You can always go back and change it.

Take your list and use it like a shopping list. Let it help you find what you know you want and need.

We will only be able to find love online if we are brutally honest with ourselves about what we are looking for and what we ideally want!

About The Author

Vivian Johnson has been involved with online dating since it’s inception! This is her main dating forum, since there is no other place in the world where you can have access to millions of eligible singles!

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Why we can’t find our soul mate online is that we do not know what characteristics our soul mate will have. We may be ignoring our soul mate everyday!

Our “soul mate” may have a gentle nature and aren’t as persistent as the other Singles that force their way into our worlds.

You will find the persons that are the most persistent and aggressive online are not your soul mate.

So if we are waiting for our soul mate to “steam roll” their way into our lives, we are wasting our time. This will never happen!

Why we can’t find our soul mate online is that when we first go online we are pursued by the stronger personality types. The ones that will email us over and over again without even waiting for a response.

We may not know it at the time but the people that monopolize most of our time online is not our soul mate. So we aren’t available when our soul mate comes along.

For this reason, I tell all singles do not spend your “down time” communicating with Singles you really aren’t interested in.

The “nicer” singles will not pursue you if they perceive you really aren’t interested in them. They will move on,

The reason why we can’t find our soul mate online is that we are usually overlooking them!

Stay away from the time wasters, that will insure you are available when your “soul mate” finds you!

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Vivian Johnson has been involved with online dating since it’s inception! This is her main dating forum, since there is no other place in the world where you can have access to millions of eligible singles!

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Most women are not stupid, gullible, dumb, or any other name critics choose to call them for the selections in men they make. For some, they truly had no idea their boyfriend meant bad news for them. The ever-popular question of, “Why did she get herself involved with him anyway?” continues to loom over their heads and the reasons vary depending on whom you ask. Some women may have found out about their problem boyfriend and stayed because of love, status, money and/or power. Others may have stayed because they didn’t want to carry the guilt of leaving their children’s father over issues they feel could be resolved. Still many women feel they can change him. As long as women continue to believe that the power of sex, money, counseling, personal sacrifice or a host of other strategies to change a bad man will work, they will continue to subject themselves to mental and physical abuse. These strategies simply will never work for some men. There comes a time when women will have to get off their knees whether she is praying to God or pleading to her mate to change. She will have to stand up carrying her self-respect in hand and walk right through the door of “end the relationship now.”

The following advice is written for women who haven’t yet made a commitment or a baby with a “bad boy.” She may be struggling with whether she is ready to settle down with him, distance herself from him or keep him as a friend. Although the best advice is not to offer to carry him or his burdens and just leave him alone, there will be those women who will still stay. If those women choose to stay, they have committed themselves to a hard life of many restless nights, aches and pains at times mentally and/or physically and they most likely will past negative behaviors to their future children and their children.

The Liar – In the beginning of the relationship, you caught him in a few white lies. He had what seemed like convincing excuses; therefore you let him get away with them. Now the lying has increased and the excuses have become minimal if not at all. Actions you may want to consider are the following: Approach him not only with what you think, but what you know; in other words have proof. Stop taking his lying lightly. Let him know that this behavior you will not accept any longer. If he chooses to continue lying, then tell him you will have to end the relationship for good. Once you have made a decision that you are leaving, begin to make efforts to not be contacted by him (change your cell phone number, block his email address, put places you hang out frequently on hold, and avoid telling mutual friends about your personal whereabouts, thoughts and feelings. You must not leave and then go back to him, he will only get better about lying to you over time.

The Player also known as The Pimp – This man is obsessed with being contacted or making contact with the opposite sex. He will use cell phone, email, your house phone or friends to make contact with whomever he meets. He will leave a trail of evidence whether it is the popular piece of paper that slips out of his pocket with a phone number without a name, restaurant receipts, hotel charges, cologne or jewelry gifts, read and sent email that sits in his account that he forgot to delete. He begins to create a pattern in his actions when you have become old and someone else becomes new. Look out for this repetitious pattern. He may develop his pattern after work on a daily basis working later and later nights at the office then when he comes home he is providing almost too much detail about what happened at work or not at all. Another pattern he may create may be choosing a hobby or interest that is very unusual to his personality and attending this faithfully, what you can do to find out if he is sincere is offer to pick him up from the pottery class on some nights. Watch his reaction. There may also be the weekend pattern of always “needing to get away, have some time to myself, or I’m so busy with errands.” All the while making little or no time for the two of you to go out and be seen together. When you suggest new places to visit, he finds an excuse to take you to the same area you both are familiar to keep from running into the other woman or women. He finds a way, anyway, to travel to places without you regularly using an excuse such as “I’m going to my mother’s house or hanging out with Rick, Joe or someone you never heard of Frank.” Be careful family and friends will cover for him. He will call you, at times when he knows you are out and about to see if you will be in the proximity where he will be entertaining the other woman or women. He is protective of his cell phone and his computer; if you tried to check either it maybe password protected. You may want to consider whether having to worry over your man’s whereabouts is worth all of this aggravation. In time, you will become insecure, angry for no apparent reason, and develop a since of distrust toward everyone you meet. This is baggage you don’t need.

The Thief – He has been around when things go missing. At first you didn’t suspect him and thought items had just been misplaced or he blamed someone else for taking them. Yet, you have always had a funny feeling in your gut that he was the one who made off with your dad’s tools, took your favorite CD, helped himself to some cash sitting around, and other important items. It is time to come up with a plan, set him up. The kind of plan you come up with can’t be easily figured out by him and if you sincerely want your restless conscience to be at peace, then go to great lengths to figure out whether he is trustworthy. Time is money and the longer you stay with him, the more items will go missing.

The Hustler – He is always thinking of a way to separate people from their money illegally. From identity theft to standing on the street corner selling drugs, he always has a knot of money and doesn’t mind living lavishly. Now you may think that what he has told you about his daytime job is paying the bills, but the truth of the matter that job didn’t pay for the designer clothing and expensive jewelry you wear; instead it was the second one you may or may not know about. This man is dangerous. He has enemies and one day some one will catch up with him, you or anyone who associates with either of you, and the sight won’t be pretty. You must ask yourself this question, is he worth putting your life and everyone else’s lives around you in danger?

The Abuser/Controller – You can never do anything right. He is often critical, walks around with an attitude and every opportunity he has alone he wants you to stop living your world to be with him. In the beginning of the relationship, you justified his negative personality with excuse after excuse. Whether he is physically ill, illiterate, disabled or mentally disturbed and on medication, you have a right to explain how you feel about him to him. You may have done this already and got knocked to the ground whether verbally or physically. You may have told yourself that things will get better and he is making an effort to change. Well that is good if he is sincere about becoming a better man; however, he can make those strides without you living with him and subjecting yourself to his name calling, mood swings, choking, punching, and grabbing. There are no rewards in heaven given to women who allow themselves to be abused by men. There was only one Christ in the Holy Bible and you are not He. (Read more about the abuser in an article I wrote entitled, “How To Know Your Boyfriend Is Abusive” at this site.)

The Mooch – You have invited him once again on an outing and he never has any money in his wallet. During inopportune times, he says he needs to stop at the ATM and you know there is none even close to where the two of you are located. When he offers to take you out, he usually picks a place that he doesn’t have to pay much (despite the fact that when it was on your tab he ordered steak and another time lobster!) He drives your car and doesn’t fill it up, when you mention it; he finally puts some gas in the tank — a measly $5 or $10. Holidays come and go with very little if any acknowledgement from him. Yet, you bought him (and possibly his relatives) really nice gifts whether it was a holiday or not. He displays affection, says all the right things, and listens to your concerns only when he knows he needs something from you. If you choose to continue a relationship with this man you have options and they are as follows. You could stop being so generous and treat him how he treats you. For example, when you invite him out, treat him to the kind of places he takes you. Put a limit on how often he drives your car. Avoid helping him when he is in a bind since you know he won’t help you. Make yourself unavailable to run errands for him and anyone associated with him (that includes his children by a previous relationship, his mother, sister or brother.) If he begins to see you are no fool, he won’t continue to run over you and will grow to appreciate you. However, if he doesn’t you will be making it easy for him to walk away from you without you having to break up with him.

The Drunk/ Drug Abuser – How many times have you seen him intoxicated or using drugs? Is he fun, angry, disgusting or depressed afterward? Are most of the relationship problems you have been facing associated with this type of behavior? If so, then you will have to consider whether or not you will help him get counseling from a distance, continue to live with him and endure the abuse, leave him alone altogether or create an intervention for him that includes a professional counselor, family and friends who have all been affected by his negative ways. If he consistently refuses help, then for your own sanity and safety, leave him alone.

About The Author

Nicholl McGuire is a Published Poet, Freelance Writer and Author. Her book Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate speaks to women who haven’t reached a decision to leave an abusive situation, visit http://stores.lulu.com/nichollmcguire for more info.

You are online meeting “strangers”. Not friends.

• Keep your personal information to yourself.
• There is no need to tell a stranger:
• How much money you make.
• Whether you rent or own.
• The trust fund that you will have access to next month.
• You divorced your husband because you caught him in bed three times, with 3
  people. (And please don’t tell them, you took him back twice…because he said
  he wouldn’t do it again!)

Giving this information to an online stranger is the same as putting this information on the front page of worldwide newspapers!

Do you have any idea what can be done with this information? If not, online dating is not for you…you are way too naïve!

Remember at all time, you are responsible for making your online dating experience safe.

Please be concerned, if someone insists on wanting the following information:

Where do you work, and what are your hours?
Who do you live with?
Aren’t you afraid being alone at night?
Do you still have a good relationship with your children’s father?
Do you consider your neighbors to be your friends?
How often do you have your children?

When you are dealing with online dating scammers and con artists, the answer to each of these questions gives them a valuable “clue” to who you are. From these clues, they are able to develop “keys”…to be used by them…

Do not set yourself up to be scammed. There is a way to avoid this, if you know how.

Once you know exactly how to deal with an online con artist, they will disappear! That is the first clue that you busted them, and beat them at their own game!

I’m not making these questions up…I have been asked these exact same questions…

Be leery of anyone that constantly pries into personal areas.

About The Author

Vivian Johnson

I have been involved in online dating since it’s inception!

Yes…I have received a diamond wedding set via FedEx, from a very eligible bachelor.

Wouldn’t you like to be one of the most desirable singles on any dating site?

Here are some tips on how to practice unconditional love:

1. Experience being love, free from anything else. It’s important to remember that unconditional love is a way of being, not a way of doing. That means it is more a feeling than a task. This can take some practice, as our society is filled with action-oriented activities. Practice unconditional love by sitting quietly, in your home or out in nature, or lying in bed at night, and just experience a state of love through your breathing. Let go of thoughts other than those about love. Bring someone to mind whom you love, or a place you love. If you practice this on a subway or bus, watch the faces of the strangers around you become alive and beautiful!

2. Take care of yourself first! Practicing unconditional love doesn’t necessarily mean to visit your family for Thanksgiving, leaving you wrecked for days and weeks. It doesn’t mean putting yourself in harm’s way physically, sexually or emotionally. You may practice from afar, if need be. There are no rules in what practicing unconditional love looks like.

3. Unconditional love starts with – you! If you’re focused on mastering unconditional love, there’s no better place to start than with yourself! You’ll experience compassion, acceptance and understanding as well as a greater sense of intimacy when you love yourself unconditionally. What we put out in the world we get back, so loving yourself unconditionally will be “mirrored” back to you by other people! It will seem as though they’ve miraculously changed, but you’ll know they’re responding to the unconditional love you’re exuding!

4. Unconditional love is meant to be shared and practiced with others – in your immediate family, in your community and with the world. There’s a saying that says, “Love isn’t love unless you give it away!” Imagine the world we’d be living in if unconditional love were practiced everywhere 24/7?

Just like any area of mastery, it may be best to start with small, attainable “wins” such as going above and beyond for people you have healthy friendships with. These are safe environments in which to experience giving and receiving unconditional love. Remember to be open to receiving unconditional love as well as giving it. However, if you expect to receive it from your actions, you’re putting a condition on the love you’re giving. Regardless of whether love happens to come back to you from others, the satisfaction of loving with no strings attached can put you on a different relationship level. The rewards will be sweeter than you ever imagined, as can only be experienced after putting unconditional love into play in your life!

As you learn the lessons of what it takes to build increasing intimacy, loving support and unprecedented relationships, your ability to unconditionally love those who are, let’s say, more difficult to find it in your heart to love, will improve. See, it’s not about the other person – it’s about YOU – practicing mastery in the area of unconditional love. It doesn’t matter if the other person doesn’t get it. It doesn’t matter if they do or don’t change. It doesn’t matter if they understand your actions or take in the love you have toward them. True mastery of unconditional love is greatly tested in unhealthy situations. The perfection in dealing with unhealthy relationships is that you can practice unconditional love full on. Not because you “should” love everyone, but because it is the way you want to live your life.

Copyright 2006 Creative Insight Consulting

Author
Joanne Goldman

Be yourself and be confident.

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The question is “How do you attract A girl?” not any particular girl or THIS girl. The best way to attract a girl is by being a man. Learn all about yourself as a man and relish your manliness. I don’t mean turn into Paul Bunyan, but rather indulge the manly things you like to do, whatever they may be. Play sports, fart loudly and ceremoniously, fix things, don’t be bashful about scratching your crotch, at some point in the relationship with a girl you must casually tell her that you will have to bend her over and make her your bitch, belch with your friends, get dirty, play cards, get a Jeep, go outdoors, learn about cars, learn about computers, feast on grand meals you cook with your buddies on the grill over beers, shoot stuff, blow things up, play with growing a beard (it’ll look like crap, but that’s okay — you are a man), play with dogs. Do NOT primp your hair pretty and try to look some certain way, work out because you want to have pretty muscles, try and be something you aren’t — that’s gay. If you just have a good time and enjoy doing the manly things you want to do then you’ll either bump into some girl that digs it or you’ll have enough fun you don’t care anyhow (which is even more attractive to a lot of women). When you can truthfully answer the above question with a “who cares?” then you are just about there. Oh, also, talk to every girl you meet with a smile on your face. And make a point to meet every pretty girl you see. But when you meet them don’t stress about what you say to meet them, just say something stupid that clearly conveys you are not cool, you know you are not cool but you don’t care because your confident enough that it doesn’t matter.

Be nonchalant sometimes. And become totally sweet. Be unpredictable.

There are many ways to do so, but to answer this assessing what your current barriers are would be the first way to start. And if you have any friends who are girls, ask them what you should do differently if you aren’t happy with this area of your life. If not, you could rely on a sister for advice.

Show her that you really like her, and don’t keep her guessing.

Be yourself. Yes, it sounds so cliche but it is true. They will get to know the real you eventually so why not let them fall in love with the right person. Always be honest about your past and things you have done. There is nothing wrong with putting your best foot forward but never pretend to be someone you are not. Don’t play games rather let her know how you feel. If you are open, honest and yourself and she still doesn’t like you then you don’t need her anyways.

Think you are sexy, and they will too.

Personally being a girl myself, to attract a girl, stare at her, make her feel special. Talk to her, don’t always ignore her, or try to act all tough. Get to know her, tell her how you feel. Don’t play with her emotions, just tell her straight up. But get to know her first, and try to see if she feels the same, otherwise just telling her straight up can be quite risky. Just trying to spend time with her, talking with her, or staring at her would usually get a girls attention though. It would flatter her, and she would sooner or later be interested, unless she’s already taken.

Be three things; smart, nice, and no pushover. From my experiences, girls like all of the above, smart - have a future, aspirations for a good job, etc. Be nice, respectful, kind, but not too kind, don’t be a freakin pushover. If some Neanderthal thug comes trying to own you, if he insults you, insult him back, if you’re a nice guy, you have brains and you can shut him up!

One of the common mistakes that guys make when trying to attract a girl is when they try to act arrogant and cooler than his friends. This does not impress us girls. Sometimes they like being cared for, but don’t be overprotective of her. Compliment her on how she looks. Some like the romantic type, and some like the action guy. It depends, so try to get to know the girl first before making a move to be sure that she’ll like what you’re doing. Never forget to be yourself. Also, try to make the first move, like asking her out on date, unless the girl you’re trying to impress is confident enough to do it before you. But normally we think that guys should make the first move. Good luck!

Smile, compliment without being cheesy, hang out with her.

Being funny helps.

Also being a girl, to attract girls, don’t be afraid to talk to us. If you are friends with a girl you like, touch her arm or even tickle her. If a girl kiddingly pushes you, push her back…gently. We like it when guys can feel comftorble around us and have real converations. I know everyone says this but eye contact is really important. Most guys get embarrassed if you make eye contact and look away, but if you can talk to a girl and look into her eyes…you pretty much have her. Smiling helps alot too.

Do sweet things for her. Honestly, its the little things that count. If you say you’re going to call her, call her. If she calls you, call her back even if you can’t talk. I’d rather have a homemade gift or something small and cute, then something impersonal and expensive. Spend time with her, talk to her. Make the first move, but don’t be overly confident. Confidence is nice, but too much of it is just a no-no. Be there for her when she’s upset. Let her be there for you when you’re upset. COMMUNICATE!
be a man and sometimes look for the girl that isn’t what you are lookin for excatly. I found one and I have been with her for about 2 years. It is worth to look deeper then just skin
Just say hi to her whenever you can. DON’T let her think you’re ignoring her; glancing her way in the hallways is good. (Just don’t let her think you’re obsessed!) Whenever you talk to her smile and laugh, and make sure you make eye contact! You want to let her know that you’re interested in her.

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oh please dont keep her wondering- go upto her and tell her, just after you’re sure that she won’t snub you badly- even if she’s apparently not in love with you…

Source: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_attract_a_girl

Love

We all have the ability to attract love anywhere and everywhere. We just have to know how!

The secret to attracting love online is…

About The Author

Vivian Johnson has been involved with online dating since it’s inception! This is her main dating forum, since there is no other place in the world where you can have access to millions of eligible singles! Get The Skills You Need! Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html

The first step to make friends with someone is to make them like you. If they don’t like you in the first place, it is unlikely that they’ll be eager to become your friends. To let someone know that you are genuinely interested in them, simple gestures like a little smile and calling him by his name can lay the basic foundation. To make the other person feel important you need to be a good listener and encourage the other person to talk. Give your honest and sincere opinion but do not overtly criticize or make fun of him or her.

The second step of making someone your friend is to develop a mutual consideration between each other. You need to share his or her perspective and for that it is necessary for you to develop an inclination to see things from the other person’s point of view. To become best of friends you must show a genuine concern and consideration for your friend’s desires and opinions.

The third and final step towards friendship is to show your unconditional support and encouragement towards your friend. Moreover, you also need to be very clear about your expectations from your friend. If what you expect from the person you want to befriend, matches with what that person can and want to contribute in friendship, the developing friendship between you and your friend is assured to flourish, making both of you gratified with mutual emotional bonding.

Friendship has overwhelming significance on both social and individual level. Friendship doesn’t only provide us with emotional as well as utilitarian support but it also helps us to improve our personal identities. So it is quite natural to feel the urge to reach out and make new friends, expanding your friend’s circle. Using the internet and the associated services like free friendship ecards come as a natural extension to this escalating aspiration. Friendship remains familiar yet quite ambiguous for our deeper understanding of this elusive relationship but then again, friends remain the most important ingredients in the recipe of life!

About The Author

Sean Carter writes on holidays, events and celebrations around the world. He also writes on family, relationships, inspiration, religion, love and friendship. He is a writer with special interest in ecard industry. He writes for 123greetings.com.